Let's clarify a common advisor misconception: client engagement is NOT the same as simply staying in touch. Sending out birthday cards, delivering quarterly market commentary emails or videos, and hosting annual client reviews isn't engagement – it's maintenance. Necessary? Absolutely. Differentiating? Not even close.
Real client engagement is emotional. It's intentional. It's rooted in perceived relationship value and trust. And when it's done well, it becomes a core strategy that fuels greater client loyalty, deepens relationships, and spans generations – a differentiator no competitor can copy.
During coaching conversations, I typically ask advisors how they engage with their clients. Over and over, I'm told that they have great engagement…their client retention rate is over 97%, and they constantly stay in touch. When I dig a little deeper and ask for examples, however, more often than not, the answer sounds like a routine checklist: "We send them performance reports each quarter, periodic updates during tax season, and then birthday and holiday cards." That's the kind of engagement one might expect from a car dealership rather than a financial advisor!
Keep in mind that we're living in an era of hyper-personalization. Your clients are comparing the quality of your responsiveness, attentiveness, and relevant importance not to other advisors, but to Amazon, Apple, and Netflix. And if your firm isn't keeping pace, those clients are at risk of drifting away.
What Real Engagement Looks Like
Authentic engagement is not about the frequency of your touches. It's about the depth of the connection. It's about whether the client feels seen, heard, and understood. And that feeling doesn't come from automation. It comes from intentionality. Building this type of connection can't be outsourced to software, and it can't be sustained from individual charisma alone. It has to be woven into the culture of your firm. Essentially, this kind of effective engagement shows up in three fundamental ways:
When you get these right, you stop being replaceable and become unforgettable. Done well, engagement becomes 'advisory equity' – building a reservoir of client trust that pays off in retention, referrals, and cross-generational continuity. Given the current environment of increased commoditization, robo advisors, AI-generated planning tools, and off-the-shelf portfolios (with every other firm touting tax alpha and holistic planning), this is one way to differentiate and stand out.
Beyond the Numbers: A Story of Trust in Action
Consider this real-life example from a few years ago. It’s an example that always comes to mind when I think about advisors going above and beyond in their client engagement efforts.
It was the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic when the call came in—unplanned, unexpected, and unforgettable.
The client, a recently widowed man in his seventies, was alone in a hospital in Florence, Italy. He had traveled abroad for the first time since losing his wife, a quiet attempt to reclaim something of himself after grief had hollowed out his world. But with a pre-existing medical condition and no family able to travel, the situation turned quickly. He didn’t know who else to call—so he called his advisory team.
Not a travel agent. Not a concierge service. His financial advisory team.
Because over the years, they had become more than that. They were his steady hands. His sounding board. His inner circle.
The team could have offered condolences and promised to stay in touch. Instead, they asked a different question: Who on our team is available to get on a plane? In the middle of Covid-19. To Italy, which had “locked-down” in a severe way.
Within hours, flights were researched. Passports checked. Logistics set in motion. One team member volunteered to go—no hesitation. They arranged for translators, medical advocates, discharge approvals, and coordinated to get him safely back to the U.S. Every detail was handled—not because it was in a service agreement, but because it was the right thing to do.
This wasn’t portfolio modeling. This wasn’t cash flow analysis. This was humanity. And it was built on a foundation of trust so deep that, in a moment of vulnerability, the first call he made was to his advisor.
No AI will ever make that trip. No algorithm will sit by that hospital bed. And no digital solution will ever replace the relationship capital that teams like this build over time—by showing up, by listening, and by doing what matters most when it matters most.
Is this an extreme example? Yes. But it’s not fiction. It’s a vivid reminder of what it really means to be in this profession. This is what it looks like to be in the business of transformational trust, not just transactional advice.
So the next time someone asks what differentiates your team, tell them this story—or better yet, build the kind of relationship that writes one of its own.
You Can't Scale Engagement (or Charisma)
If your engagement strategy depends on a single team member's memory, energy, or personality – then you have an impassable ceiling. And more importantly, you're carrying a tremendous risk. This is where infrastructure matters.
Never fall into the common trap of guessing or assuming how a client feels. Ask them. Use surveys, interviews, or third-party feedback tools. Because what gets measured, gets managed – and improved.
Unfortunately, too many firms treat white glove engagement as a luxury. Elite firms, on the other hand, treat it as a necessity. When done with intention, engagement becomes akin to a competitive moat. It's the thing that helps keep your clients loyal, referable, and eager to introduce the next generation.
So, stop asking, Are we staying in touch? Start asking, Are we staying relevant? Are we deepening connections? Are we creating moments that matter? If you want to build a billion-dollar business, you need to engage like one. In an AI-driven world, human relevance is your edge—and it's non-negotiable.
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